5 tips to turn a bad day into a great day!
We have all been there.
You have overslept the alarm by half an hour, in your mad dash to the shower, you stepped in cat sick and managed also to lock yourself out of the car. You have also forgotten an important document for work that you know is on the table top in the dining room because that is where you left it after working on it for hours the night before.
To top it all off, your hair is mess and you have forgotten your purse, so no lunch for you. Again.
When the world seems out of kilter with what we want and need to achieve within a given timeframe, our bright exterior can turn to a frown. But it is a dangerous frown because lurking just beneath the surface, is a mood capable of great harm, with both words and deeds.
In retrospect, it is quite easy to make flippant suggestions as to what can restore the smile on your face when we know the only real cure is to curl up undo the duvet and write the day off as a bad one. We may also be tempted to reach for a crutch in the shape of chocolate/crisps/alcohol/everything else that we think makes us ‘feel’ better.
In fact, these things can make that frown worse. The next time you feel your day falling to pieces, what can be done?
#1 STOP! Re-order the day
When we frown as oppose to smile, our perception of events changes. The cat being sick is a nuisance but not the end of the world; combine it with ‘everything else’ that has gone wrong, and it soon becomes blown out of proportion. You may say’ the cat has to go!’, cause considerable upset and angst.
When this happens, we feel stuck on a rollercoaster hurtling towards inevitable doom and there is nothing we can do about it. But there is and the answer lays in practicality.
Re-order your day, tossing out the things that do not need doing today but tomorrow will do. Even better, can you delegate some of these tasks or call in some favours?
#2 Make a conscious decision to smile
Bad moods attract negativity. Or at least that is what it feels like. Making a conscious effort to smile even when it is the last thing you feel like doing, can start to create a feeling of well-being.
What we eat and drink has a massive impact on our mood. If you feel these frowns are becoming more commonplace, take a look at your diet. Has your consumption of caffeine increased, for example, without you realising? It may be interfering with your mood, so try replacing one or two drinks with non-caffeinated drinks or water.
Just when your day is already full to bursting with too many things to do and everything going wrong, it seems almost ludicrous to suggest taking half an hour to go for a walk.
There is a method to this madness. Endorphins are the chemical that we need to release in the brain that calms and relaxes us, whereas stress creates adrenaline. It is all to do with the flight or fight thing that we hear so much about.
Exercise is one of those activities that produces endorphins and so talking a walk in the fresh air does have a therapeutic effect. Some people also find that listening to soothing music or their favourite podcast can also help.
#4 Step away from the biscuit barrel/chocolate stash!
As much as we may like the sugar rush, all this does is compound negative feelings as on the other side of the ‘rush’ is the dip.
There is also something to be said about our self-esteem and how we feel when we hit the chocolate or anything that we eat that we know we shouldn’t. On one hand, it may make you feel better for 5 minutes but is it contributing to making your day go better?
#5 Do something spontaneous/different/challenging
This could be anything from booking the trip to the Bahamas you have always promised yourself to booking a half day at a spa, to having your hair cut.
Sometimes, life simply bogs us down - and we let it. We need to keep an air of adventure about ourselves so the next time you find yourself bargaining with your child to do something, taking out your frustration on another road user, or only feeling snowed under, take a moment to search for that chink of light at the end of the tunnel.
If you can’t see it, you need to create it. We all need something to aim for and when we accomplish these things, we also have fond memories to look back on.
So, the next time that smile turns itself into a frown fight back!